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My name is Jay Swanson – I’m an American writer living in Paris on an artist visa. Paris (yes the one in France) has been my home for years now and I have every intention of staying here for as long as they’ll have me. I write science-fiction and fantasy, vlogged daily for 3+ years, and love pizza a little too much. Now I make videos about visiting Paris, traveling in Europe, and try to share what I’ve learned along the way. I hope you enjoyed what you found.
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The show last night was amazing that was a really good time that was a huge huge setup I was going to say Stadium it’s not quite a stadium but still so proud of Paul that was good but I wasn’t kidding when I said uh Cooper was going
To be staying with Taylor soon he’s with her right now so I’m gonna have to go get Cooper back and hopefully we’ll get coffee with an old friend along the way but before we get to that I’ve been thinking about something that I’d like to share that I think is easily summed
Up in one phase get Out Now this could be taken in a number of different ways but today the way that I’m thinking about it is in terms of growth and healing and waiting to be ready like emotionally ready like I can handle stuff I can do things eventually maybe just start we all have a million
Things that we want to do in life at least I think we do everybody talks about it like they do between travel or learning an instrument or a new language or making new friends or rock climbing or I don’t know whatever there was a Sourdough craze there for a minute I
Don’t know if that’s still going on in the states are you guys still making sour are you okay there are a lot of things that I’ve wanted to do in life that I have avoided doing because of the risk involved because of the fear and because I just
Thought oh I’m not ready yet like I’m not good enough yet I’m not strong enough yet I’m not healed enough yet I’m just not ready to jump into this to really give it my all and in reality it was a bit of an excuse and I think
What’s been standing out to me about this lately has been the fact that time does not slow for anyone and life is moving very quickly and there is a lot of life left to live I have this wonderful experience right now where instead of having like a midlife crisis
I feel like I’m having a midlife unburdening I’m very much realizing there’s so much time and space and energy left to spend like I could learn so many things I could go so many places I could do so much I don’t want to wait
I don’t want to wait for our lives to be over that keeps coming up I keeps I couldn’t I couldn’t not that keeps Popping I’m starving you space good mhm linday didn’t want to be on camera today so we’ve uh decided to put her on the other side of the stairwell and she has declared it acceptable what is the name of this place fet how do you know when to say the tea
And when not to say the tea uh the on you don’t pronounce if it were TT e t the it becomes fet is a is a word like the um creeme fet in the supermarket like a liquid like a heavy cream yeah got me on that one this morning I’ve
Only had one cup of coffee running late on that um the food was really good it was delicious the Autumn shakshuka was amazing if they still have that make sure to get that you got like the breakfast plate which I’m sure they’ll always have yeah and you can choose for
From sides like if you like scrambled eggs or any kind of egg varieties thereof like yeah nice that was very good good and if you got you just need a spot to sit have a warm cup of coffee or a cup of tea and cake or C have some
Cake and be surrounded by books and a spiral staircase that’s really really what it is it’s like if you’re a biblo file and like to just be in the presence of books this is clearly the place to be with classical music say playing classical music love it yeah anyways
This was a really cozy I think we were both a little skeptical and we came in and we I think we’re both one over it’s it’s it’s solid always nice to catch up with linday trying new places that was a new spot I hadn’t been there yet I’ve been wanting
To go for a while but there just too many to check out the city is overflowing with options of things that you can do and see and eat and you know how do you stay on top of it all you can’t that’s not a game that I want
To play at least but I do have a lot of fun trying so much of it and then hopefully being able to recommend some of it to you or to anybody whoever wants to whoever wants my recommendations I guess oh we got to go get Cooper H miss the little Guy I’m so happy that I just get to bounce my bike around like I just crossed the city in 15 minutes something like that phenomenal excuse me I I love it but the thing is that like I never would have gotten a chance to live here had I not just uprooted and come
Here there are no perfect conditions the conditions in which I moved to Paris were pretty brutal like this close to going bankrupt all my projects falling flat no money in the bank everything is just not going well at all and if I hadn’t taken the chance to get a visa
And just gone for it and come here and figured it out as I went I wouldn’t be here today like I wouldn’t be with my hands freezing the weather definitely took a turn for the for the for the chili today I’m so grateful that under whatever naive and sense of drive and
Whatever it is that got me to make the decision to just completely start my life over here in Paris if I’d waited around for conditions to be right i’ I never would have made it here cuz they never would have been right like and and
Given where I come from and what what I had available to me resource wise and everything else I never would have made it to Paris sometimes you just got to take a big risk I’ve taken a lot of risks that have fallen flat on their face but at least in this instance
Almost 7 years in I’m very very grateful that I took that risk and thanks to all my patrons including today’s Patron producer Chloe Elliot for not waiting and jumping on supporting my channel years ago really grateful to have you here it makes a world of difference it
Makes all this possible so thanks for jumping in I didn’t need to verify that this one was good I knew this one was still going to be good but this is going to be the weirdest sentence that comes out of my mouth probably in the whole video I’ve
Been craving baby love for a while and it’s taken me a while to get here but I starving after that run and before I go get Cooper they asked to keep him a little bit longer they want more snuggles um yeah there this just before you get weirded out by what I just
Said the thing is that I didn’t actually jump on it as quickly as I wish I would have I wilded away years of my life wanting to come back to Paris not knowing how to make it and putting it off like I said because I was scared
Because I didn’t just throw myself at it as soon as I could and the thing is that I I you know I don’t hold that against myself because life can be scary and confusing and it can actually be really really challenging to to jump into something as big as moving overseas but
At the same time being here now having established myself having gone through the challenge of it all the difficulty I’m so so glad that I finally did I don’t know who needs to hear this if anybody needs to hear this today uh and I don’t know all that I have to
Offer on this front but just let me say this don’t wait get started right now it might sound kind of cheesy but whatever it is you want really is waiting for you it’s out there but it’s not going to come to you you’ve got to go to it life
It’s not a spectator sport it turns out in the end it can be but I think that’s how you waste it let’s go get Cooper wait wait wait Cooper’s this way Hi bu hi Know
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Yeah man, this is something I'm struggling with hard right now. I'm trying so hard to get to Europe from the States (I have an EU passport and want very much to move to Paris specifically) but I'm waiting on getting a job that will be cool with me living there. It feels like every month that goes by was a waste of life, but I don't know how else to do it in a stable way that will keep me from being homeless right after moving there (I have NOT been able to acquire any savings while living in the States, so I have no backup funds). It feels like the sands in my hourglass are just trickling as I keep trying at this.
Taking risks is very important. I regret waiting many years to leave my home country because I was too scared. Eventually I did move to Europe. Recently I took a risk and moved to Canada from Europe. Which I regret now because I lost my European residency and can’t easily go back.
I might go to the US next but that’s also a huge risk and not sure if it’s worth it now that I’m older and not super healthy. But I always dreamed about living in the US my whole adult life.
Ever felt like a message was specifically for you? That's how I feel with this one. But where to start?! I don't know but thanks for the motivation Jay!
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A working Van Moof 🚲 🎉
Important message! True!
Damned right – just go for it. It’s something I should have done when I was younger. Cheers for the videos Jay. Im really enjoying watching them. PS even in the depths of crappy winter, Paris still manages to look fantastic!
So like I have this question (feel free to answer if you like, and maybe you already have), whenever you record the shots where you are going away from the camera, are you not afraid someone might pick your camera up? 😂
I just came home from Paris on Saturday. I told my family I found my city. And then you post this. It’s my sign. Thank you! ❤
Kinda random but the jacket you wore at around 6:45 looks great.
Way to go man! You make your own luck.
Great video Jay. I like how you mentioned that if you don't just uproot and do it, you usually won't. I moved to Paris 4 weeks ago and just left LA and really am happy with the decision to just go!
I’m still making sourdough.
thanks for the beautiful reminder! Unfortunately for me, I was burdened by family obligations, but now life has been less restrictive. Love the random Paula Cole reference.
Have you ever almost gotten your camera stolen? The anxiety is killing me 😂
Watching your video on a cruise ship on the Pacific and not skipping commercials. 🛳️🚢⚓️ Gotta have my Paris fix.
EXACTLY don’t stop living! How funny, I’m in the exact same position in my life. So much to do and experience and it’s so exciting (I’m 40 now) so I’m all for going forward and not holding back – so you do just that! Cheering you on!
Jay, one of your best! Totally motivational! Gave me some new year inspo! Happy 2024 🎉
The egocentricity & shallowness of Americans will never cease to amaze me. They are as deep & sincere as a TV commercial, but with far less integrity.
This is the best “introspective” vlog you’ve done. Thanks for the inspiration.
Thanks for this, Jay. I needed this reminder today. Great video
Totally needed this! I'm moving to France this year come hell or high water!
Thanks for this video!! I think it is totally relevant to most, if not everyone. The fear of the unknown, being risk adverse, etc. Also truly enjoyed the song reference! 😂😬
How much time do you spend per video placing the camera, entering/exiting frame, returning to pick it up? Nice effect, but it seems like it would be a pain.
Really inspiring message. You’ve always been a favorite creator and I love watching your growth and that feeling of warm fuzziness that your vlogs bring. Thank you for the daily inspiration. Love you
Needed this. Been so busy travelling to London and now Paris had not had time to watch your videos. But got to see this one while in Paris, so a tad more poignant for me. Thanks.
I’m a huge bibliophile … but am I blind or are all those books shelved spine-in? I think that might drive me crazy. 😂
Fantastic message, Jay. “That’s how you waste it”, indeed. We wanted to move to Europe when our son was seven. We finally all moved when he was 17, everyone on board and fully committed to the vision of a new life abroad. It has by no means been easy, but it has been incredibly rewarding.
Such good advice! And seriously great moment to revel in all that has come from taking that leap. Super INSPIRING !! And oh my heart – the end with Cooper!!!
Great video Jay! Thanks for the reminder!
"Life is not a spectator sport. That's how you waste it. We gotta go out and get it from where we are, and make it happen!!"❤
“Life; it’s not a spectators sport, it can be but I think that’s how you waste it.” Hands down best thing you said in this video! So true! And again I’m LOVING these mini vids around town!
What a great video to be the chosen patron producer! Thanks, Jay! Always grateful for your channel 🙂
Hahhahahahah Jay I love your content so much!! And of course you and the things you say! You are so correct!!! Just completed my trip to Amsterdam and Rotterdam now I just booked another trip 35 mins ago! On the back of my other trip that I’m going to take hahaha and working those countries see the other cities too
LOVE LOVE LOVE !
"Fleurette" means "little flower". It gave the expression "Conter fleurette" (literally "to tale flowers" 🙂 when you try to seduce someone with words) then the verb "Fleureter" which became in English the verb "to flirt"…
Thanks for sharing and for bringing us along for the ride! You are truly inspiring!
Your video is everything right now! Thank you for always saying the right things at the right time. I needed this so much. Love your videos, content and music…always look forward to seeing them. Blessings always 🙏😊
I love your videos! New subscriber here. Food for thought: Had everything collapsed after you moved to Paris, and you were suffering still from the consequences, would you have concluded that you should have prepared better, or waited for the right moment, or regret entirely your decision? If so, I find it problematic as it implies that the outcome entirely justifies the decision, whereas I don't think good decisions should be based purely on outcomes. For example, even if a heavy smoker ends up never getting lung cancer, that does not mean that it was a good decision for them to smoke, don't you think? In the same way, just because things are working out for you now, it doesn't mean things will continue to work out (sincerely hope it does, of course!), or that it justifies all the past decisions that have led to this present moment. So at what moment can we really find out if it was a good decision or not? "Stop waiting" and taking risks could result in great results in some cases at some point, but also disastrous ones in other cases, and by this logic, we will never know whether a decision was good or not until the very moment we die! (Aristotle's argument against happiness as a state, if you're interested). In other words, the criteria for the justification of one's choice in face of uncertain future must therefore lie elsewhere if we don't want to arrive at this bizarre conclusion. Something to think about 😉
I've pulled the trigger. My vacances travail visa was approved in under a day (usually takes 3-5). I'd be lying if I said you didn't play a part on this. You showed me that such life is possible even with its ups and downs so I look forward to returning to France in the next couple of weeks!
Thanks!
Thank you for the reminder, Jay! I finally stopped waiting when I faced with an incurable debilitating condition to start my youtube channel and, to this day, I ask myself why didn’t I do it sooner?! I hope people would start their “thing” they dream about now and don’t wait for a perfect moment.