Kiedy tłumaczy, kto był kim w jej rodzinie, historia Teda Bundy’ego i jego matko-siostry przestaje być zawiła. Wychowywała rodzeństwo, przeżyła pożar domu, a za młodu trafiała do kąta, bo zbyt dużo płakała. Później zaczęła bawić i uczyć.
Na dywanik u Złego Ojca trafiła Justyna Bryczkowska. Dziennikarka, która stanowczo zbyt dużo wie o porównywaniu bakłażanów z ogórkami, czy wpływie sposobu wieszania papieru toaletowego na czyjś charakter.
When she explains who was who in her family, the story of Ted Bundy and his mother-sister ceases to be complicated. She raised her siblings, survived a house fire, and when she was young, she was put in a corner because she cried too much. Later she started playing and teaching.
Justyna Bryczkowska landed on the carpet of Bad Father. A journalist who knows way too much about comparing eggplants with cucumbers, or the impact of the way you hang toilet paper on someone’s character. [Music] Hello, good morning, I’m very pleased, I’m really touched, I’m really moved,
I tried very politely, since the introduction was polite, let’s start straight away, you think about the people she hurt sometimes, I can’t honestly admit that I didn’t even think about the idea that I could have hurt someone, that’s it
I will quote, I have no idea who Mrs. Justyna Bryczkowska is, but after reading her words, my eyes popped out, it’s too bad, if we enter your name, surname, this is the first text from Twitter that pops up
, you must be a good psycho fan, because of course it refers to the text about the Beatles. as if it’s not without reason that I don’t visit Twitter because only Polish journalists over 50 and teenagers who use Twitter to make something completely different from these wonderful kings of Polish journalism and politicians.
I forgot about politicians. The only profile worth interest is Janusz Piechociński. Of course, thanks to him we know what with mushrooms What is the situation and what are the current prices of grain? But since I introduced you to this crying, tell me. Well, apparently you were already in kindergarten because
You cried too much. Is Poland a good place to develop your empathy? I don’t know of a better one. Probably because Some harm is happening to everyone here and you have to think about whether you will remain an unshakable rock or
Whether you will somehow open your heart to this human suffering that is dripping from all sides. I was silent because I thought you knew some poem and wanted to create it well, but I’m asking because you know, well. You
Saw what the situation with the border looked like, when you were a young girl, you were in France, you were very young, I would also say Osie, because it was in kindergarten, I was with my mother on her three-month student exchange, and as a Polish-speaking child, I joined a group for
Deaf and mute children. That’s what I think. very nice, empathetic approach Yes, it’s true, apparently at the very end I spoke and communicated perfectly, until today I haven’t managed to get back to the level I had in kindergarten, so there must be something wrong, but the person who put
You on this account supposedly too often There was Mrs. Teresa crying, I remember well, Mrs. Halinka, she was a cleaning lady, a kindergarten caregiver, and I don’t think you even said Well, I don’t know if you remember in the 1990s,
There were these little lions in Kinder Surprises, no, I mean, there were hippos, they were like that, and there were lions like, like, these years 0, this lady Halina had a classic apron with flowers and looked like such a lion and she mostly didn’t
Like the children she had to work with, she favored the granddaughter of her friend, a cook, who was unpleasant to me, when she annoyed some child, she sent it to my account in this includes me, because as a very sensitive child, I often
Cried, I understand now, because I’m looking at the birthday card, 90, black teeth, loud crying, this is how the cleaning lady describes her, is it true? Yes, yes, I am Another God, how should I say it, stigmatization and otherness are embedded in
My whole life as a very small baby, I was given a strong antibiotic which ate away the enamel in the teeth that were just emerging, which ended up with the first teeth that were growing in at that time turning black until they fell out. When I was a few years old,
It was like the reason for numerous problems, I don’t know what to call it. Well, the children have grown out of me. he was bold and making fun of me, I even asked my mother why no one
Ever took care of these teeth with Enamel or something like that. Well, dentists in the 1990s in Poland decided that it wasn’t worth it for baby teeth, as if the whole psychological aspect of how others would react to it was not important, yes. well, it’s like the old school, it was actually
Better to break than to work on those teeth, we’re on the topic of kids Well, you don’t have your own kids, but let’s be honest, you can easily have a lot of experience in parenting Well, what’s it like to raise your own? siblings, you know best, you can
Elaborate on this, so I think that this is not an experience that previous generations would not have had, for example, because, for example, my grandmother, as the oldest daughter in her family, also raised each subsequent child. Well, I, as the oldest child of my mother, had this pleasure and it’s not
A pleasure to be 15 years older than her next child. Which in practice meant that the baby could be pushed into my hands without the fear that she would fall on her head and die. The surviving child is doing quite well today and oh Jesus, she’s already studying,
It’s terrible and the second Bubble Well, that’s a separate story because he has autism and it’s like he’s on the border between low and high functioning, so somewhere in between he doesn’t speak but between low functioning kids he’s too high functioning, in the more high functioning groups he has
Too few communication skills and so on so I’ve been doing this for 20 years for a foster mother and it’s tiring If you accidentally asked me if I wanted to have my own children, I honestly don’t know, dogs and cats are enough for me, there’s something I could choose and not something
I had to take care of because that’s how it’s been, so I recommend animals, they relieve stress, they make you happy, they entertain you they also teach empathy, this is a worthwhile thread. Well, I would like to focus on this, brother, so that you could
Bring closer the international day of autism, right, so we should know it, and I will also tell you right away if I make any mistakes, they will admonish me because one of my readers also admonished me that we are moving away from labeling high-low-functioning people so yes, I’m just
Telling you that he will reprimand me that if you say something You are an authority for me, tell me how it was with Janek Well, Janek, it was obvious from the very moment of birth that saying this is more difficult to take care of than other children with whom We were struggling because
If he cried more, it was more difficult to establish contact with him, and sometime when he was 2 years old and he wasn’t talking yet, it turned out that we actually needed to diagnose him. And because he was
A late child of his parents, they were in their 40s when he was born. they made it out of cells, as it were, and the mother also when she was pregnant, it’s fascinating, a man who had already suffered from an infectious disease, had measles or
Smallpox for the second time, so she ended up in an infectious disease hospital while pregnant, and these factors were not conducive to positive development in the life of the fetus, a young man, plus that’s all, when the child was born, they had to take it out, he had
A giant hematoma on his head which was absorbed, but these are factors that combined did not help, so that some neuronal development in his head was not manifested so efficiently and well. As if it was probably in in the case of a child of younger people or other parents, I don’t know,
Because probably all these factors have something to do with it, and quite honestly, I can’t say that I consider myself an expert in the field of autism, because every day of my life with
A young person, I hide that there are an awful lot of things that I don’t know, as if I didn’t know either. it is surprising that in fact there is still little understanding of where it comes from. Why is it happening
Like this and what is even more overwhelming is the reality of living with a child who has no contact with the outside world except those closest to them who have already somehow learned to distinguish his messages. It is overwhelming no no I wanted to go into a monologue
Lasting long minutes, because I’ll tell you that, honestly, I expected you to go in that direction, because that’s how I read interviews with you. When she described the situation and the whole thing, how it looked like, how you communicate with Jan
At all, because you apparently have a special code so yes, if you can, tell me, I will ask you when something becomes unclear. Okay, if you want it, it will be like this, or how to say it. Non-verbal communication is a very important factor in our everyday life.
Because for some reason, Janek cannot speak, he cannot learn to express himself . I suspect that he also doesn’t want to show how much he understands because it suits him. Or he just can’t get over something, as it were. Well, he’s definitely much more polite at school
Than with us at home because it’s nice for us. Once a psychologist told me how I raise children with autism in exactly the same way as those without autism, but you have to be even more consistent. And as you can guess, even if
You listen to me say to myself here now, me and my family are not masters of consistency and if we do something brilliantly, I rather spoil all the creatures that they are under our care , so the first thing is that in order to guide someone well in therapy. Or,
Let’s put it worse, when talking about animals, for example, in order to train someone or something, you have to start with yourself. Well, I have a problem with this, so I will never be a very good one. I would rather say a therapist supporting an older sister
, I would rather focus on such an organic agreement, but if I could say it with Jan, it was never really easy because if it were, it’s not very good when it comes to any care for children with autism, because on the one
Hand, there is some money, subsidies are decisions, while when Janek was diagnosed at the District Psychological Counseling Center, I was a first- or second-year student of this unfortunate applied sociology. When I read the ready-made psychological opinion, I had such a disgusting impression that if someone asked a random
Student of any humanities field with a questionnaire for such a check-off, I would fill it out more thoroughly. said diagnosis and so on, it’s kind of fascinating that when you put a kid in a tight room with people he doesn’t know, you suddenly take out his mother, sister, or whoever this
Kid knows. You’re surprised that this child, who is scared and confused, doesn’t make eye contact with the person. which brings the examination because there is some crazy belief that all children in the world are supposed to be polite, sit on their butts with their hands preferably under
Their buttocks and wait for each next construction of an adult because, as we know, children are there to meet our expectations and not us to help them develop like this, admit that we had a similar situation when our beekeeper had been going to a certain specialist for a long time
And everything was fine, the specialist was delighted and decided to conduct research when he did not inform us or the young man that there would be a whole group of students and today we are doing research and in this At that moment
The whole thing fell apart so I understand what you’re getting at, yes, yes, I can say Well, it’s not like Janek, for example, could be sent to a special state school because there are actually no facilities with qualified people who would be suitable
For competent, safe care for yes, a kid no, I mean , they would like to put x kids in one room and leave them for half an hour because there are still a lot of other things to do with private schools, it’s also
Hard and my family usually wants to save themselves the nerves and other things like that as much as possible. I tried so hard to look for private institutions that would provide any reasonable care for the child and, for example, I was dramatically disappointed with all types of Montessori institutions
That somewhere around the first half of the last decade. There were more and more of them in Warsaw and, as if in principle, the whole concept that you follow the child, that you don’t force it, it ‘s more like, I don’t know, Scandinavian. Well, it sounds great, but in practice. It turns out
That if it’s not handled by people who know what’s going on and what to do, it’s terrible. Janek, for example, had a shadow therapist. That’s it. a person who is supposed to support such a kid. In the way he functions in the environment around him and helps him, for example, take
Part in classes. Well, when Janek went to a primary school that received these global subsidies, they really amount to about PLN 2,000 a month. Such a student receives an institution, but these money Nobody is keeping a close eye on the money , so this also leads to various pathologies in
The system, this institution took this money for this student, not necessarily as if the kid’s teachers with this therapist, pushing him out of the room, and as if the more a child is marginalized, he is pushed out, etc., the more his the condition was actually getting worse
Instead, he didn’t develop. Anyway, based on the example of our common sister, who is 100 years older than him, it turns out that such monori schools exist, they can be so dramatic, even if I were to say it, Jesus, I’m lost for words, I mean, we have a small group
Of kids which they have dedicated, as if they had a lot of teachers, resources devoted to them and in this six-person class, the kids didn’t talk to each other, they didn’t exchange lessons, they had no friends at school, they had no friends
Outside of school, they didn’t acquire knowledge, no one seemed to support their development , I had the feeling that they they produced a secondary quarter of intelligentsia, long-term clients of the same school, because in any other school these kids would not be able to cope, not
Like breeding dysfunctional children who neither learn properly here according to these Montessori principles, they couldn’t cope in a public school, you can talk about it for hours. Well, that’s it in the mouth of a teenager I will say as you started to describe what happens in such
Facilities Well, a few years ago, the media also wrote about the case of a boy who was thrown out of a special kindergarten, what it was like, because I will quote here not a year old, I wanted to ask how it happened in general, the prognosis looks like
He’s on the right track and tomorrow he’ll ride a bike not if the tendency is exactly like that if the child has great difficulties or is difficult to handle, the main tendency is to push such a criminal out of the system Because if someone
Needs more effort more time and it’s like it’s not easy to manage Well, it’s like no one wants to deal with such a kid even if they get paid a lot of money for it, if it’s difficult It’s like very few people want to deal with it and and it’s a terrible problem
Because on the one hand there is a real lack of qualified specialists and, for example, in places where such children end up anyway, for example, in psychiatric wards where children are sent in times of crisis, for example, there is also no staff appropriately
Trained for such patients and children with autism should not end up in psychiatric wards which, anyway, are overcrowded and overcrowded and it’s bad. Let me put it this way, if a child with a lisp was supposed to go to a private school a year earlier, they didn’t
Want to accept the child because sister number 2 was seplena, so they didn’t want to admit her to a private school in the yard, like the apartment where we lived then Bose pleni Well, what are we talking about in the case of
A child who doesn’t talk, there is not much contact with him and you really have to do a lot of therapeutic work, which we actually learn about all the time and even if we don’t no, well, it’s hard for me to say that there is
One place where someone will really tell you what you can do, what options you have to do with your child, basically non-stop You run into a wall, it’s not good You run into a wall, every now and then they want to push you out of
The system Well, so so in the end he ends up taking care of Janek at home Yes, Janek now goes to a private school where the guardians are actually devoted to care as if he is not even a child with the greatest difficulties and it is clear that he likes
Spending time there but it is a very special school that, for example, they do not learn to write and read, but only various methods of substitute communication, such implementation for children who already have great difficulties in functioning. What about such a jet, it is so sad that he so that he could actually
Develop a little more than just temporarily pointing at the so-called dogs, there are pictures with words for various objects, activities, actions in the sense that it would be nice if, for example, he wrote in this way, he could express more what he was saying and that’s what I started with because I’m already
Starting to tell stories, I don’t know, I’ve stopped listening to you, I really wish we could go back to that, just no, of course I’m joking C all the time, but We started with him coming home, the system was pushing him out, and I wanted, I wanted to at least
Find out what it’s like to work with him at home but I will find out we are at home well at home at home we actually try to leave him some space so that he can do what he wants which is not easy because
Janek, for example, in moments of self-aggression can bang his head against the wall Or the glass, and what if you have new windows in your house, it’s not a problem because the glass is tempered, but the young man had a tough time in his last year. Well,
He broke a few windows with his head and, how to say it, he qualified for sewing, but when you went with him to emergency room, he waited so long in the queue to bleed out there, not in the sense that the paperwork is such that this kid will go crazy three more
Times before someone will take care of him. Now Janek is in good condition, so when he comes home, he is happy and smiling, well well, he really likes watching videos on YouTube, you can’t deny him this fascinating pleasure, because in culinary videos, he then goes
To songs from movies he knows and likes, chooses, for example, songs from Disney movies, or, for example, turns on Mapety on the other hand I don’t know what it’s about, but he passionately watches videos in which you take out and open DVDs with various films
Of Jan coming home. I’ll finish work. Toy for walking dogs, which is also a great progress because it was impossible to do it before. Not in I mean, when we went out with him, we had to go one-on-one so that
We could control him now. It’s true that he’s already a handsome young man, at the age of 13, and he’s slowly getting bigger and stronger than me, but luckily he’s on medications that help him control his reflexes better. Well and you know, try to work even if
The pandemic came and the fact that I can work from home, for example, to support my mother and take care of the young one is a huge comfort because I can’t imagine someone giving up work to have to take care of a young man because
It’s not that’s the point, because on the one hand, you need a lot of money, even if you get some subsidies, to pay for therapy, treatment, or even care, on the other hand, if you can’t afford it, you should stay home alone with this kid, but… then everyone
Seems to get it – you lock the parent and the child within the four walls of the house because benefits are provided to people who take care of such children. They are starving and low and ridiculous and pathetic and what the previous government did, I don’t even want to anymore,
It costs too much pain and emotions and, for example, the issue of the fact that there is such a thing as respite care. Not in the sense that the family can go with the child to some place where, for example, the children will have
Organized activities, the parents will be able to do anything else during this time, so, for example, I am talking to a friend who works in social organizations, if you deal with this topic, then there is money for this
Type of activities, even Osów. Well, there is no money, but huge millions are spent on extremely idiotic information campaigns called people in wheelchairs are also people at a time when you can really do something. these fat millions, many more sensible things
No and I once read in an interview such a sentence, don’t ask the parent of a disabled child what will happen in the future Because I don’t know I don’t know either I’m keeping my fingers crossed for the best I hope it will be fine if I thought about it very much
I’m seriously wondering I’d have to hide under the table and cry for the next two years and I’m not like on the one hand I can’t complain because it’s quite okay on the other hand I think we could have done a lot more
For this kid than we can but we don’t know where to look, what to do and and say Just functioning at this level in order not to go crazy, not to fall into hysteria and black depression costs an awful lot and I would say that I personally will no longer
Speak for my mother, who actually bears the entire psychological burden . what will happen to the young man, although I think that I am connected with this child after the end of my life, we cannot start talking about the fact that well
They were called life farms in such a terrible way that Theoretically it would be possible to build such centers for assisted independent living for such people, but this is also really a dream of the future, something that has not yet been solved systemically and it should be at all
Costs because the statistics Sorry no, they do not lie. there are more people, there will be more And it’s not a matter of attention, my favorite fashion word for diagnosis, it’s just a matter of the fact that after all, diagnostic tools are getting so much
Better. More is known and it’s not like you can lock these people up and count on them to fend for themselves. there’s just something that needs to be done, it needs to be solved better, maybe we’ll come back to this ADHD fad, because
Your comment on these words made me decide to torment you, but for a second I wanted to stay with Jan and your everyday life, what it looked like because you, after all, were a teenager Well, you weren’t, you know, you were immediately thrown into the deep end What was your everyday life
Like, how did you cope with attacks of aggression later? Tell us a little more about this, if we go into fashion and it will be peace of mind, when Jan was born, I was 20 years, so I wasn’t such
A toddler anymore, I already had so much practice before he died. You know what, it’s a bit like that, when you’re 15, when another one appears, you’re at that age when normally you should have had a child at that age. Well, it’s like that every day, as you can see, taking
Care of a child who is a little more difficult, but it becomes a habit, not in the sense of something you build for yourself every day and so on, but how to deal with such attacks of aggression or or or that Well at the beginning you’re absolutely freezing, you don’t know what’s
Happening, the only remedies are that you’re just looking for a safe space where you know that the child won’t hurt itself, it won’t hurt you, it won’t break anything, it won’t break anything, it won’t get hit, and so
On, and and and you try calm down Just, you know, please don’t scream when your leg hurts no So it’s actually only recently and only after I went through therapy myself Well, I found out that the only thing that can save a person in such
Situations is peace, peace, peace again calm, but you also have to remember that if someone is sleep-deprived, tired, this type of attack is the fourth time in an hour or the fourth time in a day, you are tired, hungry, whatever, this limit of endurance ends at some point and it is
So that you know theoretically that it is not you can’t get angry you can’t shout, the same thing happens with kids who are neurotypical, even the truth Well, you don’t have the strength and The biggest problem actually is when it happens somewhere on
The street, people who don’t know what’s going on and don’t know the specifics of these actions can comment and say that they know better that how can I allow such things and so on, ladies and gentlemen, try to master the element of nature, a child who is, let’s say,
Locked in Tymon cannot get anything from his brain and only has such biological stimuli at his disposal, he can only do something with his own hands, feet, shout Well, it’s like an element of nature that is looking for some way to express itself, you can
Silence it, but it’s really years of training and I’ve seen a change in recent years, not in the sense that people approach it with greater understanding. When they see that something is happening, it means it’s not happening to us. so
Often that it’s bad, but sometimes someone shows up to help and so on, not in the sense that when I was very young, the ladies, for example, on playgrounds. They had a problem with him sitting in the sandbox and throwing sand, so let him stop. Let him stop. he doesn’t throw sand autism
So I’m sorry Not in the sense of well OK I saw your face I understand Okay but you said that about those 20-year-olds and that it’s time to have a child, I remember a quote from a certain work I read about you that you actually have that was the
Moment when you had to try not to get pregnant because you said you hoped it wouldn’t be this year or the next one because mom mom was probably 21, 20 years old, and grandma was 21, or vice versa. Probably the other way around, grandma 20, mom 21
I tried so hard not to have a child at that age because I felt like a child, I was very immature and as if raising a human being is a gigantic, gigantic responsibility. And Janek came, trying
To get old. Well, yes, Janek, it’s a huge responsibility, but when you have to do things, you don’t. do you have time to think about philosophical solutions and then I work, this is work, we don’t work at such a basic level
That we are somewhere at the bottom of this pyramid, a lot of daily work and And at this moment you focus on this and basically concentrate but it is also, so to speak ugly gender feminine specificity that you focus on acting
On what can be done at a given moment and not spreading broad visions somewhere no it’s a bit like driving in the fog o if you have a car there is fog Well you can drive a car just drive slowly and carefully a beautiful comparison just
For waiting while waiting And this Wi, as usual, find it, I thought you were just accusing me of not having a driving license, but okay, I don’t have a driving license either. That’s why I have to, that’s why I wanted it, I know that’s why I
Got this car from there. Because you don’t have it. I knew the law Well, where did I get that idea? I’ve been thinking hard lately that it’s time to get a driving license. But fortunately, in Poland you can now do automatic driving alone with an automatic gearbox . Apparently it’s much more
Pleasant to worry about the stick, it’s easier to pay attention to what’s going on. that’s what ‘s happening on the road, that’s what my mother says, who got her driving license at the age of 35 and didn’t drive for the next 15 years until she bought an automatic transmission, so
I believe her. I believe that cars with automatic transmission are a matter of fashion. And speaking of fashion, let’s get back to fashion. for ADHD which, according to some people, does not exist. I would really like it if people who say such things could spend more than one day
A month in the shoes of such a person with ADHD, because I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 27 and it was the result of therapy that lasted a year and for At the beginning everything
Was working great and then it started to fall apart. And it turned out that most of the problems that appeared somewhere in my life were caused by the fact that I was an undiagnosed AD sufferer. And this is the whole range of wonderful things such as
Anxiety states, eternal complaints about myself the fact that you are not able to live up to the expectations that everyone has around you, as if girls with ADHD do not have hyperactivity, most often they just have trouble concentrating, there are silent struggles that are not visible, if I were to
Compare what it looks like when you have ADHD and you want to do something you know what you know you have to do it, it’s exactly licking candy through the glass or trying to break through such a membrane, I don’t know, taking something off
The shelf small you have this rubber membrane and you are trying to do something through it you want but you can’t and often trying to perform these activities is so tiring, you know that it would be easier for you to do it, but you can’t get down to it. Well, once you’ve read
That the levels of something in the brain are too low and it can, for example, be stimulated with drugs that do not has it in pharmacies not only in Poland but all over the world because for some strange reasons The more we know about the human brain
And the more we encounter such neurodevelopmental disorders, the more it turns out to have I once read that ADHD It is something that has accompanied humanity for a very long time I know that in the past no one had ADHD and everyone was
Healthy but there are so-called hidden costs that no one sees, no one knows there was a time, now there are no times We are all snowflakes just like this poor man whose eyes leaked when he read my text no Regards Oh here,
Now you’ve gone so private, and yet we know that in the past there was no ADHD, there were naughty children who simply had to be brought up and they couldn’t sit still, but sometimes things haven’t changed much because now I
Hear from time to time that, well, some children are too much. they run and the break is not for running, what is the break for, I don’t know, it’s a very mysterious issue, but it turns out that not running is not
You know, giving vent to emotions or to someone who has been sitting for these 45 minutes, focused only on the break, you should be quiet and not pretend that you have ADHD, simply because it is probably some kind of show-off, it turns out Well, anyway,
We often have hits with running and this is my hobby horse talking about it Why you shouldn’t run during breaks but we won’t do it, tell me in such a case what it looks like with the diagnosis of ADHD in Poland Well, I was so lucky that my therapist, who had ADHD herself,
Pointed it out as if but After a long time, she actually noticed this and she did all the possible tests for me during the therapy, and then I went to a meeting with a psychiatrist who simply cooperated with her, and then he actually confirmed it and proposed a treatment
That has effective effects. It’s pharmacological, it’s true. but it ‘s not like it solves all the issues because in fact there is also a matter of supporting it with various behavioral things. But it’s actually very
Difficult in Poland because first of all you have to do it privately, most often because in order to get to a psychologist in public and then to a psychiatrist, we know how much you have to wait, and it starts with a doctor who will
Observe you long enough to be able to tell you whether there are indications to do these tests. These tests for diagnosis are also, as far as I know, expensive and not always conclusive, so these are steps not to get diagnosis is not easy and then, as it turns
Out, there are not many medications either e I only recently found out from a friend who was also diagnosed at a very adult age that there is such a thing as psychoeducation for ADHD, no one has done it for me Well, I guess we still have to wait
A lot of things which you need to learn, luckily there is the Internet, there are Facebook groups where everyone posts helpful links, readings, tutorials, and in general, the awareness that many people have ADHD and share that they have such difficulties is great. Not in the sense that I wanted to say that
The diagnosis it’s not something that ADHD patients use to explain all their failures in life. It’s something that actually helps them understand that they are not, I don’t know. Note: this is my favorite slogan, spoiled, but they just have a different one, not such a famous comparison, that it is If
You have a Windows computer and an Axis computer, the cables are connected differently, I can only do that for a long time, so keep an eye on me. I’m not the one waiting, I’m waiting. Because now you know, I have to make a counterpoint and say that I understand the book
Who claimed that ADHD does not exist because he was referring mainly to that there are too many such diagnoses. And you know, diagnoses often come from the fact that someone is there. There are many groups on the Internet. Read. Well, not to
Be false, I don’t want to attack anyone, but recently someone also diagnosed me, even though I wasn’t there at all. that place, so you know, and it was a person who was a specialist diagnosing the beekeeper or You have to distinguish between diagnosis and the assumption that someone has something, not in
The sense of diagnosis, but you see, it’s a multi-stage process in which you have tests in general, the criteria for diagnosis have also recently been expanded a bit, because as if open, as I already said, we are learning about the human brain all the time, yes, but you yourself often come across
The expression that so many people here are undiagnosed, sheep, we know that I have you know what I mean, that I understand where this comes from, well, attacking people, attacking this number of people this number of people is large and it is now large and
Increasing because it was impossible to diagnose before, because the fact that we do not name something does not mean that there is no truth. Has anyone ever seen an atom with the naked eye, how can you be sure that atoms exist? I know that this is quite far-
Reaching . can be defended more easily than you know other things, anyway, I would wish everyone who says such things to spend time facing the same type of everyday challenges as people who have ADHD, it’s terribly tiring. I would really
Like not to have this AD, but Justyna, I know that you know, just like you have AD, there are people who have it. I mean, there are people who say it’s fashionable because when it was, it was fashionable that children have to go through
Integrac you know, the thing is that parents often want to prove that their child simply has ADHD, and unfortunately I encounter this very often, it’s quite disturbing. To put it mildly, it’s disturbing. Of course, I can now say that each extreme is unhealthy and they are equally dangerous. of course, parents who force
Diagnoses, but it’s still a matter of proper conversation, education on this topic and, as it were, tempering people. Tell me how many friends you have who don’t have such a hobby themselves and say that this person probably has ADHD or is it. It’s like people with
ACoA read like this r always always everywhere and all the time but it doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t diagnose it, that someone does, of course, you know about this statement that some people say that now so many people are so undiagnosed And suddenly this excess, you know, forcibly
Proving there is an old joke about this, that there are no healthy people. There are only undiagnosed people, of course, but as you said, it is a joke, so let’s end this difficult topic, let’s move on to the next one, which is also difficult, which you started by talking about possible offspring.
Well, in general, broadly understood neuro atypicality, that’s all it has some genetic basis, tell me because Well, you yourself said that you would have to think about it, but do you think that it has an impact on the decision to have children? Of course it does, for example, I would think very seriously
About whether I want to condemn someone I love to this type of torment for this type of difficulties of transition that I have faced to some extent, apart from the fact that this world is crazy, a climate catastrophe awaits us, we will all die
And basically Well, it is terribly selfish to consciously condemn someone to a life in a world that is not suitable for this life or this is an extreme, on the other hand, I really like it when there is a big family and I like when there is a large group of
People with whom I can spend nice and fun time, just think that we are at a stage where we need to learn to define family not as a group of people with the same ties. blood, only more I don’t know, maybe I need to switch to a family of
Choice, the potential risk of my child having either autism or ADHD is high iii I. Quite honestly, I’m already exhausted from leading a person who has a harder time in life than everyone else, I’m one of the there are few people on this lovely planet who are able to understand him, devote
Time to him and so on And this also happens at some expense of my mojo, let’s say a normal life, because I spend a lot of time with my brother instead of, I don’t know, having children, planting flowers in my own apartment and keep going
Well I thought I’d expand on something, I didn’t want to disturb you because, you know, once again, in this conversation and the earlier ones that I read while preparing for our meeting, a lot of love shines through you because, well, as you once said, you can’t imagine
Leaving Janek sagg that you would like to just to create a group of people who will take care of him, you said so, you are looking now whether you want to deny it or not because I don’t know because yes I confirm Well of course I do Well,
I don’t have any influence on various things but it doesn’t mean that I will cut myself off from a kid who it’s harder for him No. The more difficult it is for him, the more you have to take care of him. Jesus, this isn’t any particular
Heroism or putting yourself in the position of a victim. Well, it’s a natural reflex that not everyone necessarily has and I don’t know what to tell you. Yes, I have it. this mode because as a child I felt very strongly about the fact that my parents
Were never together, I was dropped off from my grandmother, grandfather, aunt, someone here, such a strong need to take care of someone, that I don’t want anyone to feel lonely, or to feel abandoned or unwanted. II, it has consequences, it’s burdensome, because if you try
Everything around you, you can’t really take care of yourself, and this is terribly, terribly important, I didn’t say this before, they were talking about taking care of the kids and that if you’re not in good shape, if you’re not you are taken care of, you are not able to help others, you cannot
Get busy and plow because then no one benefits from it, where is the limit and I don’t know about selfishness or laziness or maybe just cutting yourself off from something that is difficult and uncomfortable No, you can translate it as it is in the basics of
First aid first thing, take care of your safety, because you won’t help anyone Well, now for a second, something lighter, I know that you start dinner with dessert, your career in the media started with humorous forms, are you equally cheerful and funny every day, I certainly have a terrible
Sense of humor, but in principle I’m trying, the therapist even shouted at me because the laughing mode was called Stefan during treatment, so the therapist told me to turn on the Stefan mode because people very often when it is this kind of
Defensive reaction when you are uncomfortable with something, joke about it, people thought I was frivolous because I joke about everything I joke about everything because I care so much about it and I’m trying to get used to it in some way Well, when it gets serious and bad it gets
Dangerously good at the beginning you asked me if I would be there for you or if I would ask you questions or could you just flow Well, that’s the charm of remote conversations that I usually let the interlocutors flow more What prevents me from dropping
Such delicious biscuits as you said about those dark humors I wanted to drop them like your ones I wanted to say like that Great shit no unfortunately that’s a minus Zuma that every time I miss the opportunity to have those wonderful, delicious
Biscuits, but since it was like that, there were already jokes Let’s get back to serious topics, you are such a funny person, so how do you react to adversity and, you know, I’m not talking about taking care of your siblings, but about the house fire that also
Affected you? How do you react to adversity? soup, it’s freezing me a bit. I ‘m not sure if, after these three years since the house burned down, or if I ‘m not in the so-called survival mode , because when I watched the house burn,
He actually calmed down something, stopped it, in the sense that I shouldn’t panic. okay, it’s burning and what’s next I don’t know No, I mean, you stop thinking a bit, you freeze and I was super lucky because no one actually died, the animals were
Saved, that when I was looking at the burning house I was like, Oh my God, the dog was left there, I won’t pick up the pieces after that I don’t have the strength to cry about it now
And then it turned out that all the dogs ran out of the house and hid in the neighbor’s garden, an incredible relief [Music] and there was actually a moment when I had a moment of respite and then Well, that’s exactly it, you assume that Koko doesn’t I know
, helm, emotion mode, because there is a stage when everything that can be done is going wrong, and at some point you stop reacting so much to it, it’s kind of numb, that’s what I would say, but this fire also showed me that I have a lot around me
Kind people, really wonderful, like friends and friends from work, I felt like I had a gigantic family, I don’t think I’ve ever felt so taken care of in my life as I did then, although it wasn’t far-reaching interference in everyday life, not in this misfortune,
We were very lucky, although I still don’t I have a place to live formally and something needs to be rebuilt there and these prices are so crazy now that you can go crazy, so it would be nice to have a quiet place and so on, no
Less, a house is a people, not a place, that’s how you talk about these emotions and it reminded me because it used to be that caregivers of people with autism had to explain their feelings to them, how it works so well, it’s like that because you know, because when
You nod your head, no one hears it, yes, I’ll tell you the secret, that’s what I know, you may not know it, no, yes, no we just look at each other, maybe I’ll reveal these secrets, I’m used to working in the video mode, not just audio, so I’m sorry for this
Oversight, do I need to explain the emotions? Well, Janek doesn’t speak, so I don’t know if I have to explain the emotions, I see that he he feels a lot, he is very empathetic, they say that children, like printers, sense
Fear. Jan, I have the impression that every time you are in a hurry, the printer breaks down. no, Jan is, for example, extremely sensitive to what mood we are in here at home. If we are in a good mood, he is in an even better mood. If you feel bad, he just amplifies
The loudspeaker as it is, where it hurts, because there is something, I feel that something is happening. No you have to remember that people on the Spectrum are very different, each case is different, just like no two people are the same, not born on the same day, you don’t have the same
Personalities, wouldn’t I say that people with autism don’t understand emotions, rather they don’t understand how others perceive them they definitely have it, it’s just that if they have a social feeling, it works differently, no. Yes, but
There is this established pattern that needs to be explained to them. You know, I follow this established pattern, so there are a lot of stereotypes about these rules, so you know, just like that women are emotional and men are more self-controlled. No,
We are not talking about stereotypes today because we don’t have that much time, but after your excellent joke about the printer who understands falls from getting back at others, since you had to explain your feelings to Jan, apparently your partner
Explains books to you. No, he never explains them to me. he didn’t translate books, my partner for 15 years actually translated books on various topics for a publishing house in Katowice, but Minecraft and all such strange
Things on the Internet were the most interesting thing on the shelf. He was happy to give up this job because it was junk work and it was exhausting. And now he is happy as a technical writer in an American company, my boyfriend is flourishing there, but we actually had a conversation about
Him not explaining things to me when he is working because it is tiring for him and it is not like you can use someone you know who does something it is for one’s own benefit because the work is actually burdensome.
If someone does something for money, they should not do it for free, even for their loved ones. Unless, by way of a great exception, it’s great, tell me, maybe for free you can tell me what the split training looks like. And these are long-lasting I was taught stretching and stretching lessons
By a very nice lady, Alinka, who, well, it was a studio where he was also used to use those poles that the girls trained to stretch their legs back and forth, well, listen, it’s a pain in the ass, but not tears in my eyes. case, but it took me a good three
Weeks to do the splits, but I shouldn’t brag because others take longer, a bit like Yoga with acrobatics, not good. Don’t brag, the last question is detached from reality, where does the weakness for Ramstein come from ? I’ll say it well, because the singer had beautiful blue eyes. eyes and it was so
Scary when I saw it, in the sense that it is difficult to develop, it is a fascinating mixture, this band really explains the meaning of the existence of the German language in terms of music and sound, in the sense that this music with these pyrotechnic effects Well, this is the
Fulfillment of this idea about terrible Germans who spit fire and at the same time are very nice. That’s why at the beginning, when he talks about this idea, tenen was not very positive towards the guys from rste, but Jesus Maria ten Hosen is a band
That gave the world so many potentials, at least two covers of songs that then in Poland the alcohol was stronger than in Germany now And it’s all because I love you not like that and there was another song that b probably sings in turn I’m impressed from Poland
They drank for the world you know that’s it at all it’s at all sod I’m laughing because once upon a time there was a German teacher who, when there was a huge boom on rste, explained to us the differences between the actual and the pronunciation, how it is and
Why it is not the end, it is some delicate phrase, she also listened to Tik Tak, which was already unusual, but she wanted to teach us German, so, you know, so so well ending actually ending no because say say after I wanted to say that I have never
In my life been so close to actually formally learning German as when I started my adventure with this team but I only ended up with one level on Duolingo well that’s always good I will say thank you so much for the conversation I’m glad we’re talking on our anniversary
Because today AŚ announced to the world that you have been working at gazeta.pl for 9 years and 20 days, so I’m glad that we managed to meet on such a special day. Well, in such a case, I wish you that your place would be built again quickly. And
Good luck to Janek. will come in handy No thanks, see you next time